I love these new reports that come out telling parents how wrong their parent’s methods were in how they were raised as kids. It makes for a great excuse to use to explain why they messed up their adult life. So the warnings today go something like, “If you don’t want to mess up your child, then don’t raise your child the way you were raised. They offer a kinder, gentler method in parenting. The area these “experts” seem to land most often is in the area of discipline. Take for example the latest “research” from the University of Michigan. After studying 160,000 children researchers found the more children are spanked, even with an open hand, the more likely they are to defy adults and show more anti-social behavior, aggression, mental-health disorders, and lower academic achievement over time. http://psycnet.apa.org/psycinfo/2016-17153-001/. Or take for example a 2010 study in the journal Neuroimage that found that adolescents who had regular paddling over a three-year period showed less grey matter in the area of the brain associated with self-control and problem solving. http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2896871/ Maybe the reason these kids needed regular paddling over a three year period was because they had less grey matter to begin with, not because of the paddling. Most kids I know don’t require three years of paddling’s because the smart ones figure it out after the first lick.
It is these scare tactics that have caused parents to spare the rod and spoil the child. Anytime I read stories such as these I have to shake my head. There are many cases of child abuse where parents take discipline too far but the new trend to eliminate discipline all together is very dangerous. Additionally, if all these new scientific studies are correct why did we never hear about our parents being messed up or our grandparents? How did the “greatest generation” become so great if they were the ones who coined the phrase “go get me a switch off that bush so I can whip you with it”? You know their back porch was painted red a lot more than yours was. You never hear stories of how their “grey matter” is all messed up. They accomplished more than my generation and the next combined. You do, however, hear about the little hellion that terrorized the 2nd grade Sunday School class last week whose mother refuses to spank. And everyone knows that middle schooler who has a chip on his shoulder, challenging all comers to knock it off. We never heard our grandparents bringing weapons to school or robbing a gas station for fun. When did your parents ever tell you about how they used to smart off to the police when they were young? Never, and they turned out pretty good.
Maybe there is so much turmoil in our country today because parents have been listening too closely to the so called modern experts. What is missing in our nation are strong fathers who are not afraid to discipline their children when they do something wrong and hug them when they do things right. We need more moms who will stop making excuses for deviant behavior and own up to the reality that her little angel needs a good spanking.
We don’t need a Harvard study or a 10 year research grant to figure this one out. The Bible warns us about what happens when our misdoings go unpunished. Not only do we continue but our behavior gets worse. If you are a parent, why not trust the proven methods.
"Train a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not turn from it." Proverbs 22:6
"Whoever spares the rod hates his son, but he who loves him is diligent to discipline him." Proverbs 13:24
“For whom the Lord loves He disciplines. Even as a father corrects the son in whom he delights.” Proverbs 3:12
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